I can sense that women around the globe squirming at today’s title, and I can’t blame you. Five years ago I would have slammed down the lid of my laptop and walked away too, but trust me when I say there is a beautiful amount of freedom in submission. Those are not words we often see put together: beauty, freedom, submission, but that was the plan from the beginning. So how did it all go wrong? Cue fallen man (and woman).
Yes, we are all imperfect people, that’s a well known fact. Yet we carelessly hop into relationships with other imperfect people, of course the result….imperfection. We break up, move away, cut that person out of our life, but hold on to the bitterness and hurt of promises broken. However, women we’ve got to let the bitterness of past relationships go, it’s not fair to our husbands and it’s not fair to our marriages. The man beside you is the one who pledged to love and serve you above all others, we need to trust in that pledge.
Ok with that settled, let’s quickly outline what submission isn’t.
- A trap to ensnare intelligent ambitious women
- Mopping floors in a skirt
- Quietly nodding your head like a bobble doll
- Supporting your husband’s choice privately, while publicly grumbling
- Ignoring any spiritual leading or discernment you receive while making decisions
What submission is: Complete trust. Yep it’s just that simple. Sometimes it is trusting in your husband to have your family’s best interest at heart. Those times when trusting your husband seems too daunting, you trust in the Lord to lead your husband and protect your family. For how many times must we be reminded of his good promises? Ok for those unfamiliar with the Old Testement, A LOT. However if you’re still on the fence, let me share a story from our first year of marriage, not to convince you (only He can do that), but to show you how sweet submission has been in our lives.
Fall had settled in around us, and while I usually love this time of year, the decaying leaves were wreaking havoc on my sinuses. Long story short, I was in the 5th month of a string of ear infections. As soon as I would want to cave and go to the doctor, my ears would clear long enough for me to say, ‘ahh, I’m over this’ and then my other ear would flare up.
Now I am a stupidly stubborn girl (hence ear infections for 5 months), and finally one particularly painful November day, I went to answer my phone and almost burst into tears. I took a deep breath and thought to myself, “just wait it out a few more days, the pain will go away.”
Then like the crisp fall sun coming through the trees, it dawned on me. If I would truly submit to my husband on the matter, I would not be in so much pain. In fact, if he was the insisting sort, he would drive me to the doctor right then. So, I lay down my pride and instead of clenching my jaw to suffer through the pain I did what I knew would Cody would prefer in the moment, I went to Urgent Care to get the medical attention I had been needing for quite some time.
If we believe that our husbands, and more over God has the best in mind for us, why do we resist? Why do we wrestle for control?
“I will cause the shower to come down in his season;
there shall be showers of blessing.”
So yes, having faith through submission will give you the freedom to experience the love your husband and the Lord has for you.
Ladies I dare you, to submit. You might surprise yourself!
And if you still have a problem with it, take it up with God. He made the rules, not me!
We’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic!
Want to read more about rekindling the flame, and remembering the way we felt when we said ‘I do’? Check out the full 31 Day series here and we invite you to read our own little love stories here or here!