We’ve all heard the saying “opposites attract.” And the more couples I meet (and the longer I’m married) the more I agree! I was attracted to Adam because he was quiet, thoughtful, and generally more relaxed than I am! Here’s a look at our differences:
- I almost always have a list of things to do; he rarely does
- I love coffee; he won’t touch it
- I’m easily distracted; once he starts working on something, it’s hard to tear him away until he’s finished
- I tend to have 5 projects going at once; he focuses on doing one thing at a time. I call it multi-tasking, he calls it craziness!
- I’m a runner; he only runs if he’s being chased
- I tend to be over ambitious when it comes to what can be done in a day or weekend; he doesn’t have as many expectations
I don’t mean to make it sound like Adam is lazy or unmotivated by these comparisons. He’s just more laid back than I am, and that’s a good thing!
I’ll be the first to admit that there are times that I’ve wished he were more like me, but at the same time I wouldn’t change him. Besides, if we were both Type A, we’d probably drive each other crazy! At the end of the day his strengths balance my weaknesses and visa versa. I believe God created us for each other and it’s awesome to see how how our different personalities complement one another!
Now, I just have to remember to appreciate our differences in the heat of the moment, when I think it’s absolutely necessary to do everything on my list and he’s content to sit back and relax. Life is so much easier (and we’re both happier) when we’re willing to compromise and do things together.
Are you and your husband opposites or two peas in a pod?
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