Adam and I have been married almost 6 years. We were some of the first of our friends to get married, which means we’ve been to A LOT of weddings over the past 6 years. As we celebrated the marriage of a college friend last weekend, I couldn’t help but reflect on our marriage and some things I’ve learned or wished I’d known as I was planning the wedding and starting on the great adventure that is wedded bliss.
1. The wedding day is only the beginning of your marriage. So if everything isn’t perfect (and it won’t be) it’s OK. You have the rest of your lives together.
2. Don’t stress the small stuff. This is true for the day of the wedding (I promise you, your guests won’t care or probably remember if you have a favor or what your flowers were) but also after the wedding. Sure, it might drive me crazy that Adam leaves his towel on the floor, but I have learned to pick my battles. And sometimes that means I pick up his towel.
3. Marriage is a celebration! God created us to become one, and that’s a beautiful thing. Remember to celebrate your love after the wedding and the honeymoon. Go on dates, leave each other love notes. Find out what your spouse’s love language is and use it!
4. Take time to savor the moment. It’s easy to rush through a wedding day and to rush through life, always looking forward to the next big thing. Don’t miss out on the joys of day-to-day life. That means I play another game of ping-pong with Adam (even when I don’t feel like it), stay up 10 minutes later to talk about our day, or take time to make him breakfast.
5. When you go to weddings, pay special attention to the vows. Repeat them to yourself, and remember what you committed to. Also commit to encouraging and loving your friends who are married. When you celebrate a wedding with someone, I think of it as taking part in their marriage, not just on that day, but in the future too. Married couples need all the encouragement and love they can get!
What do you do to make your marriage fun?