In less than 9 weeks we will go from being a family of 3 to a family of 4. (Please excuse this awkward, sweaty, photo timer picture. It’s on my list to get a cute family picture with the baby bump, but this will have to do for now!) As you can imagine, we’ve gotten lots of advice about having a second baby and having 2 under 2 for a couple months. Honestly, I haven’t thought too much about it. It seems my days are already filled to the brim chasing Emerson around while trying to keep the house in some semblance of order, working part-time, and maintaining friendships and a marriage.
I will admit I have some moments of panic, when I wonder what we’re getting ourselves into! Life is so good with Emerson. Yes, it’s crazy, but for the most part it seems manageable. It’s hard to imagine adding a baby to the mix!
I also wonder how Emerson will adjust. I’m excited for him to have a brother, but his little world is going to be rocked when he finds out he’s not the only one anymore. Someone said something that made me feel better recently. They said the first couple weeks may be hard, but after that, Emerson won’t even remember a time when the baby wasn’t around. I’m only 23 months older than my brother and have no memories of bringing him home from the hospital or of the change. All my memories growing up include him. This is what I’ll remind myself of if things are rough at first!
The same goes for Adam and I. Obviously it was a huge adjustment bringing Emerson home. We went from being married and being just the two of us (we don’t even have any pets!) for 7 years and then we added a very needy little person to the mix. It was a huge adjustment, but now we couldn’t imagine not having Emerson around and wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’m sure it will be the same with this new little guy. Change is never easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad. We can prepare as much as we want, but in the end, there is only so much you can do before the baby comes and then you just have to roll with the punches and figure out what works.
I picked up the book Waiting for Birdy from the library. It’s a book of essays about the year leading up to a family having a second baby. Does anyone have anything else they’ve read that they would recommend before having a second kid? I have 9 more weeks to read semi-uninterrupted.
At the moment I feel like we’re in a state of transition. Eventually Emerson will move from his room to our current guest room and the baby will move into the nursery. We’ve been painting trim and walls and doors and generally cleaning it out. Part of me wishes we hadn’t saved all this work for the third trimester when I’m starting to be more uncomfortable and tired, but I’m definitely in nesting mode! And it’s so much harder to get anything done with our little “helper” wanting to do everything we do. That means we try to do what we can while Emerson naps or after he’s in bed, but some things like pounding in new molding and need to be done while he’s awake. So instead of finishing everything in one weekend, it takes us 3.
I also can’t help but already feel mommy guilt that this new little boy is already getting leftovers. He will move into the nursery we made for Emerson while Emerson gets a brand new room for himself. He will wear most of Emerson’s clothes and we will reuse most everything from car seat and stroller to toys and books that we got new for Emerson.
I know it doesn’t make sense to buy new when we already have these things. But I can’t help but think that if the baby were a girl she wouldn’t have to share quite as many things. The one thing Emerson didn’t have that this little guy will have is a big brother. And that’s pretty special!
I have done some things for the new baby (like these onesies) and I hope to finish a few more little projects. I ordered a yard of this awesome arrow fabric from Spoonflower and some new art work for the nursery.
At my most recent midwife appointment, the midwife said it’s a good time to look at our birth plan again and start reviewing our notes about natural childbirth. We took a class on the Bradley method when I was pregnant with Emerson and loved it. I was able to have Emerson without an epidural and would love to do the same with baby #2, but the most important thing is a healthy baby and healthy mom. I’ve heard from several moms recently that labor for their second baby was cut in half, which I hope is true. Emerson’s was 21 hours!
I’m sure we won’t finish everything we want to get done before baby boy makes his entrance, but it’s a top priority for us to squeeze in a few more date nights and pick a name. Any suggestions?
And I’d love any advice for bringing home baby number two!
* I’m linking up with Natalie over at Thoughts By Natalie. She and her husband are expecting their first little boy around the same time we are!