I’m going to take a stand and say the words “I’m sorry” are two of the most important words you will say to your spouse. I don’t mean to discredit saying “I love you” or “thank you” or any other combination of words, but I really think saying I’m sorry may be one of the hardest and most beneficial things you can say to your spouse.
Let me start by saying, these are two words that I know I could say more often in my marriage.
So why are they so hard to say?
Is it because I think I’m always right? Yes.
Because I’m prideful and selfish. Yes again.
Because I’m stubborn and hate to admit I’m ever wrong? Guilty as charged.
But if I truly submit to my husband and want to honor and respect him as I’m called to do in Scripture, that means there will be times when I need to say I’m sorry. Even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard. And I’m not just talking about saying I’m sorry under my breath and moving on, but truly humbling myself and admitting that I am wrong.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of always wanting to be right and always wanting to get our way and even thinking it’s what we deserve, that it’s hard to admit when we’re wrong. Even though I like to think my way is always best and that I now everything, I’m not perfect. Once I realize that, life will be a lot easier for me and everyone around me.
I need to remember that there’s nothing wrong with admitting that I’m not always right. It doesn’t make me any less of a person. In some ways I think it makes me stronger. It means I am confident enough in our relationship and our marriage that I can be wrong. And honestly, what do I lose when I apologize about something and let Adam be right? Nothing. And it saves us both a lot of frustration.
When was the last time you said I’m sorry to your husband?